It’s no coincidence that couples have been spooning for centuries (here’s a Turkish painting from 1743 depicting the position). Spooning goes beyond comfort and convenience—it’s scientifically proven to strengthen relationships and relax your body.
It Floods Your Brain With Feel-Good Chemicals
Also known as the cuddle chemical, oxytocin is released during spooning sessions—hence the warm and fuzzy feelings. Oxytocin is alsoknown to relieve pain and boost your immune system.
Dopamine (the reward chemical) and serotonin (a mood regulating hormone) are also byproducts of cuddling.
It Relaxes Your Mind and Body
When you spoon, you’ll notice that your breathing slows down and yourmuscles become less tense. That’s exactly what’s supposed to happen.
"Spooning helps our nervous system relax," saysRebecca Hendrix, a psychotherapist in New York City. "We are are hardwired to connect as human beings, and the physical touch and hugging that occurs during spooning lowers our blood pressure and sends a message to our bodies that it’s ok to relax and let go."
It Increases Intimacy
All that relaxation stuff is great, but spooning isn’t all about you. Lying close to your partner is arguably the easiest way to strengthen your romantic bond. In fact, some therapistsclaim that as little as five minutes of spooning can cause couples to feel closer, both physically and emotionally.
It’s an Easy Segue to Sex
If you drew a Venn diagram of positions in which you can comfortably sleepand have sex, spoons may very well be the only option in the middle.
Your bodies are properly aligned, you’re in bed, and you’ve probably got a stiffy—why not strike while the iron is hot?
"The 'spoonee' can guide their partner in while arching in order to get the right angle," explains sex therapistSari Cooper. "Depending on each person’s size, there may be some adjusting needed going up, down, or forward in order to get a comfortable fit. Both partners can contribute to the thrusting, and both partners can contribute to stimulating the spoonee so that they are getting aroused.”
The Drawbacks of Spooning